Below is about 40 minutes of video and some very limited reading, including my perspective, if interested.
*Efficiency Tip: Not necessary to watch these so listening with a headset while you are exercising or traveling to and from work can knock two birds out with one stone. What matters is that you do your best to be focussed on what is being said. I also suggest you write down anything that sticks out to you and bring that with you for reference provided you want to contribute to the discussion with everyone.
I am where I am due to the millions of small choices I’ve made up until this point relative my state of mind (emotions) my ability to see the "big picture" and my ability to focus on what matters and make good decisions. I am a culmination of how I handled tiny incremental choices that were made in reaction to stimuli of which there are two primary types.
1. External force albeit a comment, accident, e-mail, asshole, a book etc..
2. Internal perspective that is tied to wisdom rooted in personal philosophy.
My ability to reactively and proactively make good choices has everything to do with my inner sense of fulfillment and meaning from this moment through this day and forevermore. This is what matters as I relate to all people, situations, challenges, opportunity, perceived success and material things in the external world.
Wisdom has nothing to do with age. It has everything to do with time / life and how conscious someone is moving through it. Wisdom is the sum of knowledge plus experience and as Dr. Joe Dispenza says, wisdom is the ability to remove emotion from whatever it is that is occurring around or to you.
So what drives me is figuring how to get better at managing “the space” that Viktor Frankl references in Man’s Search For Meaning and make better choices.
If IT is to BE, IT is up to ME. It starts by looking in the proverbial mirror. What I see or more importantly how I feel is relative to width and clarity of my lens. From my perspective, this is the primary function of the Table and the essence of why it matters. How can we broaden and clarify what we see and how we see it?
My Paradigm is to understand that true freedom in growth lies in our ability to choose our attitude, decisions or actions. We also know we have prehistoric part of our brain that influences how we handle that choice. That influence can be positive in physically dangerous situations, but can also keep us wallowing in a sense of perceived worry, fear or comfort. We also have a past story or programming from others that influence our perspective. Good or bad, like it or not. If you are not conscious of this and willing to create a new story and better programming, life won't change.
Our paradigm, “our map” of how we see the world is what allows use to mitigate and make use of the lizard brain while navigating all the incremental choices we make each day. People who are “highly effective” have a refined and accurate paradigm. It is not potential, genetics,the environment, family or “the man” holding you back. Understanding paradigms and how they apply to all of us individually is critical and very empowering and necessary in making progress and start reaching intended destinations.
We can choose our attitude and behavior, but without a clear vision of where we want to go or who we want to be and accurate map in our mind to get there, it does us no good. Change and growth is not about positive affirmations, chants in the mirror, motivational speeches or reading THAT ONE BOOK "that will change your life." It is about understanding the brain and how thoughts and feelings control it. It is about being able to program what everyone understands to be "the most powerful computer in the world." It's about learning how to code.
3 Ounces of Perspective Is Worth……?
THIS WILL BLOW YOUR MIND WIDE OPEN
Our excuses are lame….If this doesn’t change your perspective then what will? seriously…..
Kyle Maynard from Suwanee, GA Learn More>
The Happiness Advantage
Harvard psych professor, Shawn Achor, teaches about happiness, human potential and productivity. I thought it would be perfect to help explain why The Table might be a good idea as well as the 25/75 ratio you hear us talk about.
The late Steven Covey explaining what a paradigm is and how it relates to life, growth and happiness.
What Is Your Map?
Viktor Frankl- Neurologist and pychiatrist, founder of logo therapy, Holocaust survivor and author of Man’s Search For Meaning.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Stop expecting from life and understand that meaning is found in fulfilling what life expects from you. Serve others in their pursuit of love and happiness. Success and happiness is to be ensued and nor pursued. If you make this your target you are doomed to never hit the target you aim for.
The late Jim Rohn is my favorite business / life philosopher of all time. I was first exposed to him when I was 24 and his perspective has proven to be profound and timeless. Listen carefully to what he is saying. If you are not happy with the results in your life, you need to start with your personal Philosophy. Something I go back to every day. Try to ignore his soothingly annoying voice and the fantastic looking 1980′s audience. Love this old codger!
"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." -Albert Einstein
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi